Nothing is more frustrating and boring than being directionless, writes OM SWAMIAs a philosopher you might ponder over the meaning of life, but if you want to be happy, it’s the meaning in life that matters. Call it the mid-life crisis or a higher calling, at some point in time, every educated mind is faced with the most important existential question of their life: Why am I here?Those who experience emptiness and a void in their life are plagued, if not constantly hounded, by the inner turmoil of finding their life’s purpose.
The purpose of your life is not to merge in the Supreme Consciousness; that’s an outcome.
It will happen anyway, for everything goes back to its source, eventually. The discovery of your life’s purpose or the truth of your life is akin to finding your voice, being alive one more time; it’s like being born again. Nothing is more frustrating and boring than being directionless. That’s where purpose comes in; it gives you direction. Everything else dwarfs in front of your purpose then.
The problems, challenges, issues remain, they may even be bigger than ever before, but they are like weeds in a lush grassland. These weeds affect the aesthetics and well-being of your garden, but you can uproot them. In fact, you have to, again and again. It’s a small price to pay, for when you are driven, even your problems take on your colour — like weeds in the grass. To experience fulfilment our energy must be invested in some creative pursuit; that you move a step closer to your life’s purpose when you undertake something bigger than yourself.
If you consciously choose to work below your potential, you will feel frustrated and unfulfilled. The question remains: how to find your life’s purpose? The answer is rather simple, here: Care about something. Whatever we care deeply about becomes our life’s purpose, its meaning. It’s really that simple. This explains why passionate people are often full of life. Or why parents can be so fulfilled in their families. Whether you care deeply about a person, cause or thing is mostly immaterial as long as you care about something.
Also, remember, if you spend your life deeply caring about, let’s say your family, children or some person, the day they move on, you’ll feel incredibly empty. So, it helps to either care about something which goes beyond a person or accept the fact that if you care about an individual, one day he will be separated and it will cause you pain. If you are someone who has no passion for anything in life, I’m sorry to tell you that nobody can help you find your purpose. And one good way to find your passion is to see what excited you when you were a child.
Often, when people take up their childhood hobbies as grown-up adults, it builds anew a sense of wonder you see in children. Even if it doesn’t bring a breath of fresh air, at least, it shakes up the jar of your life. Those emotions, desires, and dreams that lay at the bottom until a few moments ago, rise to the surface. Once you know what you care about, the immediate next step is to act on it and start connecting with the right people. Go find a mentor or co-traveller. It will go a long way.
You will need motivation when you run low or think of giving up. You will need someone who is willing to listen to you, handhold you, that person or grown-up who will understand your pain and challenges because they are either in the same boat or have been through the same journey. You may be tempted to think that you can do it on your own or that you don’t need others, but you will be kidding yourself. Psychology’s second crucial insight for understanding meaning in life, says Jonathan Haidt, is hive psychology.
Human beings are ‘ultra-social,’ not individualistic, and in this we more closely resemble ‘bees, ants, termites and naked mole rats’ than our ancestors the chimpanzees. Meaningfulness would be more easily achieved, Haidt suggests, if we placed the group rather than the individual at the centre of our thinking about fulfilled lives, and recognised the importance of participation in collective rituals and projects. Once you are in it, enjoy; make the most of it. You can’t predict what it’ll turn into or which direction it will take.
That’s part of the beauty. You can have it all thought out and figured but one random incident, jumping at you out of nowhere, is enough to change the course of your pursuit and your life. What you find meaningful may appear completely pointless to others, and that’s okay. In fact, the criterion of what you care about has little to do with what others think about it. Your purpose doesn’t need to be grand or ground breaking, it just needs to be something you care about deeply. The rest builds up on its own.
Truth be told, in chasing grandness, we often lose the purpose itself. In a nutshell: Care about something. If you don’t know, then find what you care about. One method is to try whatever you can. You just never know what may catch your fancy. Find a mentor and hang out with the right people. The more deeply you care about something, the greater love you’ll discover for your purpose. To create is our natural dharma. Don’t we always root for the protagonist to win, don’t we pray for a neat closure, some happy ending? Why? We are born to walk the path of greatness.
We celebrate triumph, we honour strength, we love those who go against all odds. We are inspired by those who aim for the height of greatness. Now, if you say, I don’t give a damn, reconsider your position!DON’T WE ALWAYS ROOT FOR THE PROTAGONIST TO WIN, DON’T WE PRAY FOR A NEAT CLOSURE, A HAPPY ENDING? WHY? WE ARE BORN TO WALK THE PATH OF GREATNESS. WE CELEBRATE TRIUMPH AND HONOUR STRENGTH